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Around 2013 I began to pursue my lifelong goal of achieving a black belt in karate. I found a school in town that taught Hapkido (karate) and began my journey. Since I had prior experience in martial arts, I expected a time frame of about 4 years to reach this goal....

Many of my clients have been making themselves miserable with thoughts that are so deeply ingrained and habitual that they’re not even aware of what the thoughts are. Through the Stoa Life process, these thoughts are brought to a client’s awareness and often, the...

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series There was a time when our survival was intimately connected to our ability to maintain social connections. There were periods in human history when, if one was exiled from their tribe, that individual would not survive. During...

In a prior post I wrote about the Mid-life evaluation that many women experience. In response to requests for further information on this issue, I’m going to do a brief series of posts expanding on some of the common elements that lead women to the midlife...

The Stoics were not opposed to wealth.  In fact, Seneca was a rich man.  Marcus Aurelius was an emperor.  In this short statement, Seneca was just warning us against obsession with the material, defining our contentment based on what we have rather than how we live...

Before we talk about menopause, it’s important to look back at the preceding years to fully understand why menopause is particularly difficult for women who have been stressed.   A consequence of being stressed over the course of years prior to menopause includes the...

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series As I’ve pointed out in other posts, as a People Pleaser you’ve had your operating system installed early in your life. This programed belief system is so deeply ingrained, that you reflexively act on it daily. To do anything...

When it comes to men, our society tends to of trivialize and demean the experience. We’ve reduced it to over-simplistic images; a balding, overweight man who wants to re-capture his youth and buy a sports-car. One (female) “expert” advised wives that a sign of male...

If you’re a People Pleaser, that mindset was likely instilled in you a long time ago. Probably since birth. You've been taught beliefs like the “needs” of others come first, that it’s vital to settle conflict, avoid discord, and that agreeableness is the best way to...

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series As a People Pleaser you fear being disapproved of. This fear comes from a belief that usually sits outside of your awareness yet profoundly controls how you feel and act. Unconsciously, you believe that there is danger in conflict...