Resources

Anticipate Adversity!

Around 2013 I began to pursue my lifelong goal of achieving a black belt in karate. I found a school in town that taught Hapkido (karate) and began my journey. Since I had prior experience in martial arts, I expected a time frame of about 4 years to reach this goal....

Bringing the problem thoughts to light

Many of my clients have been making themselves miserable with thoughts that are so deeply ingrained and habitual that they’re not even aware of what the thoughts are. Through the Stoa Life process, these thoughts are brought to a client’s awareness and often, the...

You’ve given your all to everyone else for most of your life.

In a prior post I wrote about the Mid-life evaluation that many women experience. In response to requests for further information on this issue, I’m going to do a brief series of posts expanding on some of the common elements that lead women to the midlife...

Midlife Crisis?

When it comes to men, our society tends to of trivialize and demean the experience. We’ve reduced it to over-simplistic images; a balding, overweight man who wants to re-capture his youth and buy a sports-car. One (female) “expert” advised wives that a sign of male...

Serving is all you know, prioritizing yourself feels wrong.

If you’re a People Pleaser, that mindset was likely instilled in you a long time ago. Probably since birth. You've been taught beliefs like the “needs” of others come first, that it’s vital to settle conflict, avoid discord, and that agreeableness is the best way to...

A consequence of People Pleasing is exhaustion…

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series As a People Pleaser you fear being disapproved of. This fear comes from a belief that usually sits outside of your awareness yet profoundly controls how you feel and act. Unconsciously, you believe that there is danger in conflict...