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When it comes to men, our society tends to of trivialize and demean the experience. We’ve reduced it to over-simplistic images; a balding, overweight man who wants to re-capture his youth and buy a sports-car. One (female) “expert” advised wives that a sign of male...

Many of my clients have been making themselves miserable with thoughts that are so deeply ingrained and habitual that they’re not even aware of what the thoughts are. Through the Stoa Life process, these thoughts are brought to a client’s awareness and often, the...

Before we talk about menopause, it’s important to look back at the preceding years to fully understand why menopause is particularly difficult for women who have been stressed.   A consequence of being stressed over the course of years prior to menopause includes the...

If you’re a People Pleaser, that mindset was likely instilled in you a long time ago. Probably since birth. You've been taught beliefs like the “needs” of others come first, that it’s vital to settle conflict, avoid discord, and that agreeableness is the best way to...

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series There was a time when our survival was intimately connected to our ability to maintain social connections. There were periods in human history when, if one was exiled from their tribe, that individual would not survive. During...

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series As I’ve pointed out in other posts, as a People Pleaser you’ve had your operating system installed early in your life. This programed belief system is so deeply ingrained, that you reflexively act on it daily. To do anything...

Women’s Mid-life Re-evaluation Series As a People Pleaser you fear being disapproved of. This fear comes from a belief that usually sits outside of your awareness yet profoundly controls how you feel and act. Unconsciously, you believe that there is danger in conflict...

In a prior post I wrote about the Mid-life evaluation that many women experience. In response to requests for further information on this issue, I’m going to do a brief series of posts expanding on some of the common elements that lead women to the midlife...

How often has disappointing others resulted in something catastrophic? Part of the solution is to look at exemplars with clarity, when you’ve disappointed someone over how you painted or cut the grass what were the consequences? Even if they were irritated with you,...

There was a time when our survival was very intimately connected to our ability to maintain social connections. When describing this to clients, I often illustrate the point by referring to the periods in human history when, if one was exiled from their tribe, it was...