Resources

I often brainstorm with clients to develop a checklist of healthy habits (“Top-Line” behaviors) that they can post in their homes - somewhere in plain view. Initially, this checklist technique was something I suggested primarily to depressed clients. Over time, I...

Ever watched a YouTube video where a “Success Coach” is passionately urging you to reach your potential? I recently watched a series of them and found the experience exhausting.   We’re pressured to reach our potential and taught that it’s something we should do in...

In my view, anger spans a continuum: Annoyed...irritated...frustrated...angry...rage...fury. Many people experience anger regularly at some level and are not even aware of it.  We may have daily, if not hourly experiences. Not blind rage, not fury, but a lower level...

In modern business culture, “thought leaders” often depict the workplace as a positive environment of teamwork and productivity, provided we expect the best out of people.    The underlying message is that most people just want to work hard and function as a team.   I...

Virtually all my clients report they just want to feel better, which translates to less stress and more calmness in their lives. Establishing a habit of critical thinking about one’s own thoughts is key for the development of clarity of mind and personal equanimity....

There is no therapy or coaching strategy that will change the circumstances of your job. Therefore, it's vitally important to learn new ways of thinking and coping strategies that will allow you to navigate your work with calm and clarity of mind. From this state of...

Around 2013 I began to pursue my lifelong goal of achieving a black belt in karate. I found a school in town that taught Hapkido (karate) and began my journey. Since I had prior experience in martial arts, I expected a time frame of about 4 years to reach this goal....

The Stoics were not opposed to wealth.  In fact, Seneca was a rich man.  Marcus Aurelius was an emperor.  In this short statement, Seneca was just warning us against obsession with the material, defining our contentment based on what we have rather than how we live...

When it comes to men, our society tends to of trivialize and demean the experience. We’ve reduced it to over-simplistic images; a balding, overweight man who wants to re-capture his youth and buy a sports-car. One (female) “expert” advised wives that a sign of male...

Many of my clients have been making themselves miserable with thoughts that are so deeply ingrained and habitual that they’re not even aware of what the thoughts are. Through the Stoa Life process, these thoughts are brought to a client’s awareness and often, the...