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“Don't fill your mind with the bad things that might still happen. Stay focused on the present situation and ask yourself why it's so unbearable...” - Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 8. 36  Remember that anxiety is a crisis of the imagination. The past no longer exists,...

Sometimes we mourn lost time; we focus on the things that we “could have done.” Sometimes we agonize over the future, things that we hope to do or fears over what might happen.   When we focus on the past or the future, we overlook the most critical segment of our...

Many of my clients are at a milestone period in their lives where they stop, take stock, and evaluate their personal goals. It’s unfortunate that we’ve trivialized these critical moments with demeaning terms like “midlife crisis.” I prefer to think of them as midlife...

I recently viewed a post that featured Dana White of the UFC and Mel Gibson encouraging viewers to see the movie Sound of Freedom (the movie is based on a true story about child sex trafficking). In addition to encouraging folks to watch the movie, both White and...

Prior to the start of World War II, Prime Minister Baldwin snubbed Winston Churchill, appointing Sir Thomas Inskip to the position of Minister for the Coordination of Defense. To most others, Churchill had been the obvious choice for that position. At that time Mr....

I served in the Military as a Navy Hospital Corpsman...  In law enforcement for twenty-one years...  I have been a psychotherapist and coach for 15 years...  The highlights of my resume are not important, except to serve as a vehicle to express my profound gratitude...

Many of my clients described “shutting down” when they encounter conflict. The conflict they experience is usually characterized by an antagonist who can be forceful by talking loudly, interrupting or displaying anger.  Certainly, there are situations when it’s wiser...

“I've helped so many patients with serious conditions, but what impact have I  really had on the quality of their lives?”  The above quote was a realization expressed by a physician client of mine.  We sometimes assume responsibility for things that are outside our...

I often run across clients who believe that they need anxiety to fuel their success.   They say that without anxiety, they would get sloppy or lose the motivation necessary to achieve their goals.  In keeping with my earlier post on values, I’d like to point out that...

Clients sometimes express disillusionment because they're having trouble pursuing their goals.   This dilemma can occur because they’re using unhelpful criteria to identify their goals. For example, a client I worked with reported that his goal was to make more money....