Are you a people pleaser?
Do you avoid conflict at all costs, worry about disapproval from others (even people you don’t like), or losing a friend? Concern over these outcomes can lead to deep anxiety.
Are you passive and have trouble saying “no”?
There are many elements that can lead to the habit of People Pleasing. One common factor is childhood experiences; you may have been trained by your family to keep the peace or take on responsibilities that should have been assigned to adults.
People pleasing continues over the course of the lifespan. You can wind up feeling overwhelmed as you continuously try to “put out fires” and satisfy the demands of others. “Others” are often close family members, including children (even adult children), parents, and spouses.
Do you People Please at work? Are you the “go-to” person?
Eventually, most Pleasers realize that they can’t keep up and they become exhausted and resentful.
Since it’s based on deeply held beliefs that have been maintained for so long, People Pleasing can be challenging to change.
In my experience, clients can change through Mindset Training. They usually decide to change because they’re fed-up, have had enough, and want a better future.
“Changing is easier said than done.”
Yes, but what isn’t?
Rather than focusing on how hard it is, ask yourself if it’s worth doing. Is it worth putting in the work that will pivot your life trajectory toward health and contentment?
How much work have you put into the agendas of others?
It’s time to take care of You.
The very best to you all.