We believe that venting is a good thing to do. After all, we usually feel better after we “get things out.”
But is it really good for you? Is it truly helpful?
Important distinction: Sharing your burden with others and using your support network is a healthy coping strategy.
Habitual venting is not:
Habitual venting reinforces upset. You may feel better afterward, but you’re inadvertently practicing upsetting yourself rather than creating the mental space needed to look at the situation more objectively. Regularly venting to others can lead to their resenting and avoiding you. In addition, venting activates your body in an unhealthy way; the health consequences of negative emotional activation are well documented.
Of course, venting stems from the understandable desire to release pent-up feelings of frustration or anxiety. So, what should you do instead?
One alternative is to learn relaxation techniques.
This strategy seems so obvious that it’s often dismissed. However, research shows that the consistent practice of relaxation techniques such as Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) builds efficient neuropathways from activated to relaxed. With enough practice you’ll be able to quickly transition from upset to relaxed without having to do any unhealthy venting.
It’s a simple, non-pharmaceutical remedy that’s easy to access.
The very best to you.